Can You Feel the Love? Because I Can't

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Can you relate to this scenario?       
    "I have been married to my spouse for almost 9 years and things have started to go down hill in the love department.  Every once in a while he will buy me flowers or bring me gifts; he even took me on a getaway for my birthday.  That's nice and all, but we never sit down and talk.  he just comes home from work and watches sports on TV.  I have to ask him to help me clean the house even though he knows I was working all day too.  It seems like we are mentally and emotionally in different places in our relationship.  I feel like he is speaking German and I'm speaking English.  If things don't change I don't know how much longer I can live like this."

Have you ever considered the notion that you are speaking two different Languages?  Everyone wants to be loved, but we all feel that love in different ways.  In the Book "The 5 Love Languages" By Gary Chapman he talks about the five different ways that people feel and experience love.
They are:
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time,  and Physical Touch.  You and your significant other may feel love and give love in completely different ways. That is okay because you are not the same person - but you are in the same relationship and that relationships take work. When you know each others' love languages, it allows you to show them love in their own language and they feel more apt reciprocate your language back to you.  When you both feel loved it makes it easier to work on your relationship, allowing you to see the joy you receive from the love you share for each other.

If you head over to Gary Chapman's website you can take the love languages quiz yourself and find out which love language you speak.  It may be just the thing that can save your relationship with the One you love.

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